All Things Trecie

Love Without the Conditions…

Love is not conditional. It is loving someone, no despite who they are, but because of it.  It is loving what and whom they love and accepting everything and everyone in their life if it…and subsequently they…make this person happy.  True love means loving someone the way they need to be loved and not the way you want to love them.


Love… a four letter word more complex in meaning than any word in the dictionary, regardless of the language you speak. Solely because it’s definition differs depending on who you ask, their view on love, how love was presented to them throughout their life and their ability…or inability…to give love to others. 

One thing, despite the definition, love is meant to be unconditional. Meaning that love is supposed to transcend any flaws, faults and imperfections….making the aforementioned minute and irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. 

however…..

we tend to treat love as a mathematical condition weighed down by the faults, flaws, imperfections and any other variable thrown into the equation to make it less than appealing.  

if…

but…

however…

We put more emphasis on what can go wrong instead of basking in the joy that nuzzles our heart since they have entered our life. Finding potential pain as a side effect of the joy we feel….if you will. We, as humans, would rather watch our relationship fail because of predicted vices then believe that we can succeed at an imperfect love. We would argue you that 2+25 instead of 2+2=4 based on the fact that we don’t know if the 2’s were rounded down meaning that the equation could be 2.4+2.4=4.8 which rounded up is equal to 5 instead of taking the situation at face value. It’s human nature…it’s in our makeup. 

but…

if we take the conditions out of our love, our imperfect matches would be perfect definitions of the word that puzzles generation after generation.

So instead of focusing on what could go wrong, just appreciate the fact that right now nothing is wrong in your relationship and that you are loved without conditions and weighted predictions.

I tried not to love you,but i cant help it any longer because my heart still wants you.

Picture is pretty self explanatory….

Picture is pretty self explanatory….

My favorite Love Letter….Beethoven

Though still in bed, my thoughts go out to you, my Immortal Beloved, now and then joyfully, then sadly, waiting to learn whether or not fate will hear us - I can live only wholly with you or not at all - Yes, I am resolved to wander so long away from you until I can fly to your arms and say that I am really at home with you, and can send my soul enwrapped in you into the land of spirits - Yes, unhappily it must be so - You will be the more contained since you know my fidelity to you. No one else can ever possess my heart - never - never - Oh God, why must one be parted from one whom one so loves. And yet my life in V is now a wretched life - Your love makes me at once the happiest and the unhappiest of men - At my age I need a steady, quiet life - can that be so in our connection? My angel, I have just been told that the mailcoach goes every day - therefore I must close at once so that you may receive the letter at once - Be calm, only by a calm consideration of our existence can we achieve our purpose to live together - Be calm - love me - today - yesterday - what tearful longings for you - you - you - my life - my all - farewell. Oh continue to love me - never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved.
ever thine
ever mine
ever ours

“Life is too short for regrets, unhappiness and settling….so live life with passion, love until your heart burst at the seams and realize that the only thing settled on is land, bad debt and cases in court! I plan on smiling until my cheeks hurt, laughing until I can’t breath, loving until Cupid is sick of me and living the life and dreams that were willed for me before I even set foot on this Earth!”
— Yours Truly
Our tenure….

Loving him is easy, no prerequisites or a list of things that must happen…we just work. Like a solution to the hardest problem, it took a while to figure out the answer, but the gratification of finally having it was worth the effort. Smiles on high beam, skin glowing like the sun….after testing the hypothesis, the conclusion is he is the one. In the puzzle of my life, he is the missing piece…he fits perfectly. Our tenure will last forever!…..

Poetry Corner:Mr. Perfect for Me….

Incredible falls short when describing him,

Prince Charming pales in comparison.

Not perfect,

but perfect for me.

Flaws adding character and reasons for me to love him.

Kisses lingering, fingertips leaving trail marks on my body…

memories leave me longing for him.

Regardless of the time, the moment, the reason, the season or the distance,

he is mine and I am his.

No one or nothing can separate, divide or demolish this….

Moments spent together, engraved mentally and filed under bliss.

What women search for, 

what real men hope to be…

a fairytale…

one true love,

Mr. Perfect for Me.

Hindsight…..

A calming, peace inducing trance is what I am in…and he put me there…it’s crazy what a phone call, text or simple smile can do for your soul…

He and I have history…he was the first guy I ‘fell’ for once my son’s father and I ended our relationship…I spent time with him everyday…he met my son…we would lay in each other’s arms at night with the windows raised and speak of our future while the midnight’s air gently grazed our skin…we were good together.  In a puzzle missing that last piece, he fit…making the picture fully visible, beautiful in a way…..but I got scared, and as always, when I get scared I run.

I left the one guy who, even in my sweats and bun on top of my head, chose to love me through it all. The one man who saw perfections in my imperfections…

I was stupid to let that one go…they say hindsight is 20/20, well apparently it is a MMA fighter as well because it is currently kicking my ass…

#ItsTrecieHeaux:Success (S)=Love(L) + Some constant variable equal to S-L

Love…the one thing on this Earth that has no definite definition.  It ranges in meaning for each person who says it…

I love you like the Christian I am….

I got love for you….

I love you like a brother/sister/cousin/play cousin…..

I love you……

I am in love with you…..

each statement containing that four letter word…each statement containing more weight than the last…but what does it all mean….and is love ever enough.

Many people assume that since they have love, they have it all…love isn’t what it used to be back when our grandparents participated in it.  Back then love was the end all, be all, cure for all. You loved and you loved hard…there were no ifs…no buts…just love….but then…..we happened….and we messed that up.

In 2011, love is no where near being enough…depending on the person you ask, love need not be a requirement…each person’s relationship success equation differs…but GUARANTEED most people’s equation factors in money in some way…(money x time + personality)/ height= relationship success OR {(money x time)/# of kids +( attractiveness + clothing brand(s) worn +job title +car make and model +#of vacation homes)}/ # of zeros in their bank account total….I think you catch my drift….

I agree, love isn’t enough today…BUT I disagree with the factors that most people but priority on when searching for the variable to relationship success. I have been single 4 years…as stated MANY times before…I, more times than not, am ready for love.  I miss the behavior associated with it…but I find myself, like 99% of the world, placing relevancy on a variable that changes daily….personality, Christian like morals, God fearing, drive and ambition, the ability to be an amazing step father….*mumbles* height…all of these are factors that I take into consideration when I think of my new mate…..

there is a man that I like….I like him A LOT…but distance kills it for me….I like tangible objects and the distance makes him intangible except for those moments that we are around each other….then things are good….but only then…what about the other 99.99999855675% of the time…I need my additional variable to be constant and consistent….the same at all times….don’t change *Musiq voice*….

but those variables do change…and sometimes love diminishes and dwindles to little of nothing…and the whole equation to relationship success that you thought you had figured out is completely wrong….and you are back at square 1…learning basic arithmetic and working in shop trying to mend your broken heart…

and at that moment…you figure out….love changes everything and nothing at the same time….

and sometimes, its better to stay with the equation 1+0=1….at least you know those variables don’t fluctuate! 

Poetry Corner: My Forever

Like a wind in the trees.

A cool summer’s breeze.

Shackled hands set free.

This is your love to me.

A calming to my soul.

Overflowing happiness from the brim of life’s bowl.

Sharing with you all moments until we grow old.

This is my hope for us.

Reminiscent of Bonnie and Clyde.

My smiles no longer like Celie’s having to hide.

From this day forward, by love’s rules I promise to abide.

You are my prince charming.

Fairytale endings now made after you and I.

Your love taking me on the ultimate high.

Shot past the stars and landed on the moon in the sky.

My piece of happiness pie.

The reassuring that makes unsureness subside.

You. Are. My. Forever.

Poetry Corner: L’essence de mon etre est en lui

My good deeds personified,

my slice of heaven found in his eyes.

The love that many search aimlessly for,

my prize placed behind the mystery door.

09/21/2006 18:31 etched forever in my mind,

the moment I saw my blessing for the first time.

My son, my saving, my rock, my motivation,

the reason I strive, the reason for my dedication.

I have been blessed with something so profound and amazing.

My fulfillment in life, my purpose set before me,

mommy first always will I be.

Never have I felt so free,

l’essence de mon etre est en lui